Express, Explore and Enjoy

“Let yourself be open and life will be easier. A spoon of salt in a glass of water makes the water undrinkable. A spoon of salt in a lake is almost unnoticed.” - Prince Gautama Siddharta

So many things happened in past few weeks. I try recalling everything i did and everything happened and a smile automatically appears on my face. I enjoyed every moment of being me. I might have done some stupid things as well but I have no regrets. So this one is about enjoying every moment to its fullest.

Express.

We think allot. We think about futile things and burden ourselves with grudges against other people. We get irritated or offended by some things said by other people and we keep it to ourselves in order not to 'get into a fight'. We dont let things out of our mind and carry the load everywhere every time with us. This, as a matter of fact, degrades our ability to enjoy the present because, our mind is pre-occupied with other thoughts, and those thoughts, which are about a person who doesn't even know that he or she might have offended you. So WHY EVEN CARRY THOSE THOUGHTS when they are just useless !!
Although you try avoiding a fight or an argument but it only degrades you and no one else.
And thus, Expressing things and solving grudges timely is very important.
You keep some grudge against one person and you dont express it. Then some other person bothers you and you dont express that either. A Third person bothers you and you keep that grudge inside your brain.
Eventually it accumulates and keeps on entering the 'hide it' part of your brain. Then, one day, you get so frustrated that you blast out everything on some person who doesn't even deserve to be your punching bag.
But that punching bag is your real friend.
So, we can compare the 'hide it' part our brain as a volcano. Activities keep on occurring, heat keeps accumulating and eventually it blasts resulting in undesirable results. Hence, it is necessary to keep solving your grudges from time to time. Talk to people about it. Express yourself to avoid blasting over others.

Explore.We are satisfied with our lives just as the way we get it. We just move with the crowd. We dont experience new things, make new friends, find our pros , explore life. We are satisfied with our limited scope in life. We dont want to leave our Comfort Zone.In order to explore ourselves, we need to step out og the comfort zone. Leave the everyday life aside and do something new. Try extraordinary things. Make new friends. Find a way to please yourself. Do wild things. Just forget about the everyday things and find other possibilities of life.

Don't enter your circle of life untill you have quenched the thirst of being you. Explore Life. Its worth living.

Enjoy
Accomplishing the above two tasks, you will find yourself much more happier. Just dont be scared to do things. Words like 'regret' and 'guilt' are worth ignoring. If you are scared to take an action and you feel that it would be a mistake, then the best way to know if its a mistake or not is to DO IT. If it results in something undesirable then it was a mistake and you learn a lesson and never repeat it. If it results in something you wanted to happen, even then you learn a lesson !!

Express Yourselves
Explore Yourselves
Enjoy Yourselves

P.S. I thank Mahak Maini for her idea of comparing things for explanations and adding sketches and Palac Chhabra, Surbhi Saini and Abhijit Singh for some other things.

The Lesson

You meet a person one day, just like you met so many others, without realizing that THIS person will soon become one of the most important part of your life.While for some, one small conversation is enough confirmation. This is how we make a FRIEND. (Considering the friend a "he" just for convenience). One shared incident and you understand that you've finally found someone with the same mentality as you, Same principles but very different choices. Every time you both talk, you realize more and more how similar thoughts and feelings you share. There comes a time when you get so attached that you cannot imagine that person in any other way. You have your share of joy, craziness, late night chats, teasing and of course, care! Oh and those unforgettable pranks!

And now, you sit here reading this post thinking about that one friend you had, smiling as you recall everything. And now the smile fades away, because now you remember what happened next- the Reality. How you threw him out of your friend list hoping this would throw him out of your mind too. But did it? NO, it only threw him out of your life. Haven't talked to him for months, maybe years.Now you know nothing about what he's upto, which feels weird because you still remember the time that you knew every detail of every minute of his life! Now you see how blind you were when others warned you about him.  Do you Regret it all now? 

DON'T.

People come into your life for 2 reasons:

1. To stay.

2. To give you a precious lesson in life. A lesson that you would never have learnt without their help. 

I know its sad to be lied to, to be used or to be betrayed.People come, and people go. Forgive him. Well, don't if you don't want to. But he fooled YOU. YOU!! He had something in him didn't he? At least give him credit for that! And I'm sorry to break this news to you, but that person probably doesn't even think about you or the friendship you shared. Had he cared, he would have tried to make up by now. Its hard to forget those little things, especially the ones that come after the big blow : The awkward silence. The turning around when you see him just to avoid eye contact. The moment you tried to convince yourself into forgiving him but failed. But you know what? You don't even have to forget them. These memories are just like Scars. Scars are a constant reminder of your careless mistakes that triggered the accident and prevent you from repeating them! Every person that leaves your life teaches you something. I learnt to never show that you care. What did you learn?